Use this
the balance point
Old-fashioned rolled oats
Steamed and pressed flat but left whole, so they hold their shape through the bake and still soften enough to eat.
This is the rung both the published record and the baking literature settle on, and it is what a recipe means when it just says “oats”. You get visible flakes, a chew that pushes back, and enough water uptake to thicken the dough without drying it out. If you have them, the decision is made.
Also fine
six cooks, no dissent
Quick oats, for a softer, smoother cookie
Same oat, cut smaller and rolled thinner, so it drinks water faster and disappears further into the dough.
Cooks who swapped them in reported a measurably softer edge and a smoother, more uniform cookie, with nobody reporting the opposite. The warning you will read elsewhere is that quick oats make a cookie crumble; that did not show up at any scale we can see. Softer, yes. Falling apart, no. A couple of cooks actively preferred the chew they got.
Worth knowing: this is the one swap on the ladder that is genuinely a preference rather than a compromise.
At a push
Instant oats will work and will not taste like much
Instant is pre-cooked, dried and cut finest of all, so it behaves closer to a soft flour than to an oat.
You will get a cookie. What you will not get is the thing that makes an oatmeal cookie worth making: there is almost no flake left to give you texture, and the oat flavour goes with it. Use it if it is what is in the cupboard tonight, and do not judge the recipe by the result.
Do not
a different grain entirely
Steel-cut oats will stay hard
These are sliced groats, never steamed and never flattened, and they are not on the same ladder as the rest.
A cookie bakes for ten to twelve minutes. Steel-cut oats need far longer than that, with far more water than a dough has, before they soften at all. They come out of the oven essentially as they went in: hard grit in an otherwise finished cookie. Soaking or cooking them first makes them a different ingredient with different water, not a substitute.
A different dish
Oat flour makes something else, deliberately
Ground to powder, it is a flour rather than an inclusion, and it swaps against your wheat flour rather than your oats.
It bakes tender and faintly sweet and it carries less structure than wheat, so it is a weight class down. Baking literature starts measuring the structural loss at around a tenth of the flour replaced, which is a useful place to stop if you are experimenting rather than following a recipe written for it.